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IMDB rating: 7.90 Plot: Bhatinda-based Geet Dhillon lives a wealthy lifestyle along with her parents and extended family consisting of her paternal grandfather, uncle, and a cousin, Roop. She re-locates to study in Mumbai and lives in a hostel. On her way home she boards the Punjab Mail on Chatrapati Shivaji Terminus and gets to share her berth with a young man named Aditya Kashyap. She finds him rather depressing and when he attempts to jump off the train, she stops him, and attempts to cheer him up with her non-stop chatter – albeit in vain. At Bar Nagar he alights from the train and she follows, both end up missing the train and take a taxi-cab to Ratlam which is the train’s next stop. They barely make it, Aditya goes his way, but Geet misses the train which goes on it’s way to Kota along with Geet’s belongings. Both meet again and end up spending a few hours at a motley hotel, but their stay is interrupted when Police swoop down on it, forcing them to flee along with other guests. They trek the rest of the way by bus, then by car and end up at Geet’s residence where preparations are under way for Geet’s marriage with her childhood friend, Manjeet Singh Mann. But Geet wants to marry Manali-based Anshuman, so she plans a getaway with Aditya’s help, leaving the Dhillon family to construe that both had eloped. Nine months later the Dhillons catch up with Aditya and ask him to bring her back to Bhatinda within 10 days. Aditya, who has been dumped by his girlfriend, has his mom run away with another male, have his dad pass away recently, apart from carrying the load of Kashyap Group of Industries, must now contend with the Dhillon family. The question remains is Geet living with Aditya or is she with Anshuman, and if she is with Aditya – why would it take him 10 days to bring her back to Bhatinda? |
Actors: Kapur Shahid,Arora Tarun,Singh Dara,Malhotra Pavan,Tiwari Kamal,Thakkar Nihar,Jussawala F.J.,Sharma Vishal,Sharma Deepak,Comedy,Romance,
I said a stupid insensitive joke directed at my wife and she took it personally. Advice would be appreciated.?
A few hours ago, after I came home from a management meeting for work about an emergency system crash, I was dressed in some nice clothes. My wife, who had gone shopping with some of her girlfriends earlier, saw me in those clothes for the first time and told me how great I looked.
These past few weeks, our marriage has been a little bit rockier than both of us would have liked it to be, due to our proclivity to fight over minor disturbances. Recently, my wife and I had just been engaged in a silent treatment – given by her, received by me. Apparently, "I wasn’t giving her attention or respecting her", so she decided to exaggerate and emulate my supposed actions. I was a bit pissed off at her for that, but I didn’t say anything. She snapped out of the silent treatment phrase last night when both of us were sick of it and we both apologized. Since then, it’s been a bit awkward and I never quite seemed to know what to say.
To make a long story short, after she complimented me, I shot her down with the stupid remark "Wish I could say the same about you". It was a joke. I sincerely meant it as a sarcastic joke. Before you comment about how I’m some narcissistic emotional spouse-abuser, I should probably point out that my wife and I are both very sarcastic and witty, and our humor derives from that source. I know it was not the best idea to make a sarcastic jab at my wife personally, but I thought she would at least ignore it if it wasn’t funny to her.
Instead, she started saying all these untrue things about how ugly she looks, how fat she is, how I regret marrying her, etc. None of the facts were true and I told her that. I loudly voiced my opinion, but she didn’t seem to listen. Then she started yelling at me about being a jerk and not respecting her and always hurting her feelings. I apologized numerous times but none of those apologies were accepted. She’s in our bedroom right now and I tried hugging and kissing her, but she pushed me away quite obstinately and is giving me the silent treatment.
Did I screw up badly? Or is she just being overly sensitive? In my opinion, I don’t think what I said was a huge deal. It was just a JOKE. What am I supposed to do? Thanks.
Several years ago my wife asked what time is it?I said the punchline to an old Jerry Clower joke which is "What’s time to a hog?" It took a long time to live that down.Especially since she had never heard the joke before.We kid about it now when one on us ask what time is it but it took a long time.
bearbeast | Nov 14, 2009
It may have just come out of your mouth before you put much thought into it but that’s a really bad joke! I don’t think she’s being oversensitive. That’s just mean even if you didn’t mean it to be it is.
MMB | Nov 14, 2009
Ok, yes you screwed up but I don’t think this is a huge deal. Unfortunately you hit a nerve and it sounds like your wife has been very sensitive about her appearance the past few weeks. My advice:
Go to the store tomorrow and buy your wife some flowers. Tell her how sorry you are and tell her you love her very much. Take her out for a nice dinner tomorrow night. Good luck.
Joseph C | Nov 14, 2009
You need to take a step back away from the jokes and evaluate what you find humorous. She obviously doesn’t find jokes at her expense to be humorous, so here’s the simple solution: quit doing it. Anytime you feel the urge to make a joke when you know it comes at her expense, stop yourself from doing it. Exercise some restraint.
Also, please stop trying to place the blame on her for not enjoying being the butt of your jokes! If she doesn’t think it’s funny, then for whom are you telling the joke? A joke is no good if you’re the only one laughing, after all.
If you were truly witty, you would realize that there are other jokes you can tell which don’t have to come at your wife’s expense. Don’t you think it would be better to find jokes that make both you AND your wife laugh? Think about it.
Kestra SpiritNova | Nov 14, 2009
Wow you actually sound like a good guy. I guess you were joking but as females we are very self conscious about our appearance. When it comes to our looks you have to be very sensitive. I suggest you write her a note telling her how much you love her and how beautiful she is. Make sure she reads it before going to bed. Going to bed angry just makes you want to puke when you see that person in the morning.
SmileyFace | Nov 14, 2009
I do the same thing to my husband i do it though because i want attention and he then will tell me everything i want to hear our marriage use to be on the rocks alot and now we are great! We joke around and i don’t take things as seriously but if you’ve not been married long then a comment like that would really hurt. My husband has never said that and my feelings probably would be hurt but if he told me he didn’t like something i would try to change it. The thing is do something great for her you’ve hurt her get her flowers and a movie she has been wanting to see, or buy her some lingerie and tell her that you saw it and thought she would look sexy in it. Go out of your way to tell her you love her. Because if you do love her don’t let this argument get to far. Apoligize and tell her you didn’t mean it…I’m sure her girlfriends heard about it so when they hear about how you made it up to your wife they may just get jealious.
Shellybug | Nov 14, 2009
lol dude……. im sorry
She is over doing it a tad…. but… she’s a woman.. and sometimes are hormones get tweaked out!
She will get over it!
Send her flower’s and a card explaining your love and devotion to her!
Lucy | Nov 14, 2009
gotta love women. tell her you didn’t mean it, you understand you hurt her feelings and you are sorry (yes, again) and that you will let her be until she’s ready to talk to you. her response to this will probably be "I’m never speaking to you again cuz I’m FAT!" and feel free to laugh at this, but don’t let her hear you.
She’s being a baby. And it was insensitive. Y’all are both bucket-heads.
KissThis,Yahoo! | Nov 14, 2009
ohhh that was pretty insensitive. i think you should apologize and tell her that it was just a silly joke. or just write her a letter saying that she is the most beautiful women blabla bla
Mad | Nov 14, 2009
Get her a beautiful flower arrangement and tell her the flowers are a symbol of the beauty in her that you love. After that take her to her favorite restaurant for a romantic dinner. Jewelry can soften the heart of a woman too.
Monica | Nov 14, 2009
are you sure shes not pregnant? she sounds pretty emotional. you can email me ashhsos@yahoo.com if you want to talk more
Ash | Nov 14, 2009
Dude….You are sooooooo screwed. This one is gonna take a lot of groveling, several dinners out, flowers, and possibly something with sparkly rocks. It will also require of you to learn when to shut your sarcastic mouth. Your remark was unprovoked and she took it just like any other woman would….. A personal attack on her looks. BIG MISTAKE….. and you can plan on paying for it……. Start soon!
dathinman8 | Nov 14, 2009
Treat her nicely and do nice things, fill her life with so much joy that the rocky patch dissapears, her hurt is probably a mixture of what you said and all the stupid arguments that have been going on
Rastafari | Nov 14, 2009
Get this book called the Love Dare. It’s a 40 day commitment. About halfway through, you should see a change in your marriage for the better. I’m doing it. Had to stop after the first week, because I got so sick, but now I can pick up where I left off. Even that first week has made a huge impact on my marriage. It helps make good marriages great, and not so good marriages good.
About halfway through, you’ll notice you fight less, and things are just..better in your home and between you and your wife.
Salty Boy | Nov 14, 2009
You just got over a fight, tensions are high and shes probably still upset about the argument that you thought was over. if she thinks you don’t respect her or give her enough attention thats not going to go away over night, it’ll take both of you to change things. When you made your little jab at her, you were just joking around, she doesn’t understand that because shes still sad that she doesn’t think you respect her. Remember somethings you say that are really mean during a fight, aren’t always forgotton and can actually hurt her selfesteem, which doesn’t seem too high to begin with. Try to talk to her, tell her what you want to change and ask her what she wants to change in the relationship. And even though you think everything might be over after a fight, sometimes bad feelings hang around for a little while, wait a few days or a week for you both to get back to normal, and forgive and forget. Then you can joke around with her again, without hurting her feelings or having her over react.
Missy | Nov 14, 2009
It sounds to me like she finds you insensitive to her insecurities. Most women have very fragile egos when it comes to their looks. You obviously know now that what you said was wrong. I don’t believe you didn’t mean it in a hurtful way, I think you’re just sorry she got so upset. Saying snide and hurtful things will only breed negative emotions and feelings, it’s no wonder she didn’t find your brand of funny not to amusing tonight.
IMHO, based on the info given, it seems as though you are both acting very childish when it comes to how to approach your relationship. Rule #1: you’re on the same team and should be working together and building each other up, not tearing each other down. Rule #2: Open communication is absolutely key. There is more than one right answer, so be open to your partner’s opinion. Rule #3: Forgive and forget, otherwise don’t expect your relationship to last long. We all have bad days, we all feel grumpy at times, don’t hold it against your partner when they have a bad day. Rule #4: Don’t give excuses and don’t play the blame game. Avoid the words always or never, and don’t accuse your partner of things because it only spurs a defensive reaction, even if you’re correct, so it’s not worth it.
These are a few things that make relationships in general go more smoothly. Another tip I have: read some Dr. Laura, especially the book "10 things couples do to ruin their relationship" and "the proper care and feeding of marriage". She may be a bit extreme at times, but she has some great insight.
V H | Nov 14, 2009
Let her brew over it for awhile. When she calms down, then tell her how much you love her for her and the way she is. She must be feeling bad about her appearence. Ask her what you can do to help her over-come this. And listen to her with out saying anything. Let her get everything off her chest. And do what ever she ask of you. She has to have some tender loving care, from you. She needs your full attention. People change as they get older. She don’t want a smart-a$$ no more.
twiggy | Nov 14, 2009
That wasn’t a joke. That is what is called passive-aggressive behavior. You obviously have no respect for your wife and should be ashamed of yourself. Expect to be in the doghouse for a long time.
Doodlestuff | Nov 14, 2009
I don’t think you screwed up badly or anything like that by making the remark, esp if you are both sarcastic to begin with. While your wife is maybe upset you made the comment, it sounds like there may be some other things upsetting your wife. Usually fighting over the little things, means there may be some other bigger issues under the surface. I think you should just give your wife a reasonable amount of time to calm down, then try to talk to her. I would not wait days to do this, just until she calms down and you both have time to sit down and discuss things. Communication is key. Good luck.
Jennifer | Nov 14, 2009
I am in the same position as your wife and I truly say to you that it hurts really bad when the person you love and adore makes a joke like that especially when they hardly compliment you to begin with! My boyfriend never compliments me (other men do everyday!) He is very selfish and I tell him all the time how good he looks but he never returns the favor, you need to apologize and then everyday compliment her that only takes one second out of your day!
Caramel | Nov 14, 2009
It is a mistake to think that jokes that are founded on meanness, spitefulness, or sarcasm are funny. Trying to seem witty at someone else’s expense may seem like a good idea, but it is never a good idea to treat someone you are supposed to love as the butt of a joke. Never, never, never. Saying something hurtful to someone in an attempt at humor doesn’t prove you’re a wit. It proves you’re a half-wit.
So…it sounds to me like you and your wife both need to go to a counselor and learn some ugly truths about a relationship founded on sarcasm and taking jabs at each other. People who love and care for each other have too much respect for themselves and for each other to do that.
If both of you behave this way, I suspect that you’re both defensive and use this kind of behavior as a way to avoid being open, honest and VULNERABLE to each other. Well, newsflash to you, half-wit: people who want to make a go of a relationship for the long-term have to be willing to drop their defenses to each other and let each other inside their defenses. If you and your wife are sparring and being sarcastic, you need to go see a counselor to find out why this is your knee-jerk way of relating to each other.
In the short term, you need to tell your wife that it isn’t her sense of humor that’s at fault, it’s yours. What you said wasn’t a joke, it was hurtful, and I’m sure you knew the potential hurtfulness before the words left your mouth, but you said them anyway. Which meant you cared more about being witty and cool than about her feelings. She lowered her guard to give you a compliment, and you stabbed her for it. Bet it’s a long time before she lets her guard down to you again, half-wit.
So it wasn’t a joke. Own that. It was a gratuitously mean statement. If you own that and stop putting the blame on her ("It was just a JOKE"), maybe she’ll listen to you.
Given your lack of respect for each other, I wouldn’t bet a dollar against a moldy donut that you two will still be together in a year.
Karin C | Nov 14, 2009
big freakin
you did say you WISHED you could say the same about her
i think thats a very lovely compliment
you could have said you wished for a Marilyn Monroe lookalike to come walking in
but did you wish for that? no.
Marilyn | Nov 14, 2009
