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Sound of Thunder, A (2005)
IMDB rating: 4.00
Plot: “A Sound of Thunder” is about a game hunter (Burns) who goes on a time-traveling safari owned and operated by Kingsley’s character to hunt dinosaurs in the prehistoric era. When he kills a butterfly, he unknowingly sets off a chain reaction that will erase humanity from existence. A team of experts must return back in time and replace the butterfly. McCormack is the inventor of the time-traveling computer.
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Directors: Hyams Peter
Actors: Burns Edward,Rohde Armin,Kingsley Ben,Oyelowo David,Hochholdinger Wilfried,Zirner August,Johnson Corey,Van Der Kuech Alvin,Armstrong William,Ong Stuart,Hausknecht Antonin,Fantasy,Thriller,Adventure,Sci-Fi,Drama,Action,
why, when my baby is due 30/03/10 am i expected….?
… to go to a wedding 10 days later
i don’t know if i have already asked this question, but it is really bugging me.
my little girl is due on the 30/03/10 and my boyfriends cousins wedding is on the 10/04/10 (they are an extremely close family)
and we received the invitation after we found out that we were expecting. so obviously i said no straight away cause unless i was really early i doubt i would be in any fit state to attend.. and im certainly NOT going to leave my baby alone so soon!
in saying this, his mother started having a go about how the family would be really unhappy and would want the baby their. and when i asked about "what if i was late" she said "don’t be stupid – if you were late then you could still go". and to top it off his aunt and grandma think we have done it on purpose to "steal the thunder of the big day"
this may sound really horrible, but i don’t see what the big deal is? a year ago they didn’t even know i existed, 3 months ago they didn’t even know about the baby, so why are they all of a sudden offended that i don’t want to go to the wedding.. straight after giving birth???
would you personally think about going to a wedding 10 days after your due date? am i odd that even if im early – i see a huge problem with taking a newborn to a wedding where there’s going to be a lot of strange people who unfortunately i have been warned will fuss over baby rather than the bride
Oh my god sweetheart, you are so right about this. It is ridiculous that they would expect you to be there! Have any of them had children?! That is such a precious time for you and the baby, you need to be bonding, recovering, finding a routine that works, not struggling through a day that’s long and hard even if you haven’t just had a baby! And then there’s the babies needs! I agree with you, that’s hardly a suitable environment for a newborn, even if you were a month early!
I think when you have the baby you will feel even more strongly about this. It is your job to look after that baby, the wedding is a bad idea, for you as well! How can you look after your baby if your not taking good care of yourself?
I know how you feel, i have a very pushy mother in law who completely took over my wedding. It got to a point where it was too late to do anything about it but now i’m pregnant with her first grandchild and she’s trying to get her hooks into me again. Well its not gonna happen, a wedding is one thing, a baby is quite another and what i say goes with my baby, i will not be cornered into anything.
I think you need to point out how inappropriate it would be for you to go, try to explain why you don’t want to, say that you can understand that people may be disappointed but it can’t be helped, the baby has to come first and that they should understand that. If it carries on further then take a simple and hard approach and just say "No, i won’t be coming, i have explained why". "No, i won’t be attending, because of the reasons i have explained and because i don’t have to."
Stay strong, don’t let them bully you or make you feel guilty, you made some very good points in your question. Also, if you go to that wedding, everyone will be playing pass the parcel with your new baby, it’ll be floating round with "relatives" that you’ve never even met, and that will just tear you up, don’t let it happen! Good luck!
wacel | Jan 04, 2010
I certainly wouldn’t wanna go!
Thats family for you though. Some are understanding and other have unrealistic expectations. I bet you question whether you’re being fair or not, hence why you asked this question. But i’m with you I wouldn’t wanna go with a 10 day old baby and I wouldn’t wanna go if I was overdue either!
I’m due the same day as you and my hubby has a family reunion on the 15th March. I’ve told the organisers we’re unlikely to attend as its too close to my due date. I haven’t said anything to my mother in law cos i know she probably just assumes we’re going. The organisers (MIL bro) totally understands.
jingledelz | Jan 04, 2010
Yea, they’re insane to expect you to go. Insane.
Just apologize anyway, tell the bride you are so excited for her, and ignore any other negative comments, etc.
Jackie | Jan 04, 2010
I see no reason why you can’t at least make an appearance at the ceremony. You can take your baby with. Carry her in a sling so people are less likely to try and touch her. She will most likely sleep the whole time anyway.
You should not be expected to attend the reception, baby or no baby. It would be way to much for such a young baby to handle. Stand your ground. Say you aren’t go and that’s that. Unfortunately this is just the start of having to upset family members for the sake of your children, it’s just part of being a mother.
Skye – Mackenzie's Mumma. | Jan 04, 2010
It’s your baby your life your decision,seems like you can’t win don’t go you’re frowned on go and you steal the brides thunder.Don’t think of them think of you and the baby.A room full of people maybe carrying winter bugs or swine flu near a tiny newborn or a nice warm home xx
Wendy | Jan 04, 2010
FFS of course you shouldn’t be expected to go! You’ll either have a tiny newborn that you cannot possibly leave so would have to take, or you’d be huge and uncomfortable! And if you end up needing a section there is no way you could possibly go.
Of course you could phone them, explain you’ll be bringing a newborn who will most likely cry throughout the service, and do they still wish you to come?!
They’re being extremely unreasonable and, quite frankly, selfish and stupid. Ignore them.
Sophies mummy and having a boy! | Jan 04, 2010
I was in this same situation my partners brother got married when our twins were newborns i had the same sort of thing that i should be there … i had just had a section as well !
I simply said ‘No i am sorry i am far to tired and have to think of my babies’ My partner went and that was that, if your daughter would have been older then of course you should have gone and i would say you would think the same ..
